To Ask And Listen
People often ask us questions and tell us that they want to know our opinion but when we begin to answer, they start cutting us, interrupting us and attempt to interpret us.
If they are so much wise and intelligent then why do they ask questions from us? Why they do not have answer to their questions? For me, I believe that if we put forward a question to anyone, we must have this much patience and tolerance to inhibit the temptation of speaking in between. Controlling the temptation to speak without listening to the other person fully is a sign of immaturity and lack of knowledge. If you want to be heard patiently, listen to others patiently as well.
I feel this habit is more common in people who are ‘self centered’, ‘selfish’ and focus only on what they want without giving a damn about the need of others. But on the other hand, if you have a habit of continuously speaking, then don’t be surprised if people interrupt and cut you in between. It is because they have been waiting long enough to get an opportunity to speak and when they lose hope because of your nonstop conversation, the only resort left with them is to interrupt and break the flow of conversation. So make sure you listen to other person properly so they do not have to break in the conversation every now and then.
You can also be sure if someone is just not interested in listening to you if the listener just keeps answering 'yes' or 'yes, you are right'. On the other hand, listening does involve an attentive and active questioning to clarify the concepts.
For others, I think only they should ask question who have the tendency to listen to the answer and absorb accordingly.
Written By Dr. Muhammad Wasif Haq, Islamabad, Pakistan.
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